Why the GROW Coaching Model Isn’t Growing You Anymore

written by: Cat Paterson

As we approach 2025, let’s talk about the elephant in the coaching room: those tried-and-tested frameworks might be holding you back from your next breakthrough.

Think about it – if traditional coaching models like GROW were the complete answer, wouldn’t we all have transformed our lives by now? The truth is, while GROW (Goals, Reality, Options, Will/Way Forward) served its purpose, it’s like using training wheels when you’re ready to race.

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The Missing Piece

Here’s what nobody tells you: achieving goals doesn’t automatically equal transformation. I’ve seen it countless times with my clients – they tick all the boxes, hit all their targets, map out all the strategies and still feel fundamentally unchanged. Why? Because we’re working at the wrong level.

True transformation isn’t about what you do – it’s about who you become in the process.

Beyond the Surface

When we focus solely on goal-setting and action plans, we’re merely scratching the surface. The real magic happens when we dive deeper and ask:

  • Who am I becoming through this process?
  • What identity am I stepping into?
  • How does this align with my core values and vision?

The Evolution of Coaching

Modern coaching needs to evolve beyond simple frameworks. Yes, structure is helpful, but transformation requires a more nuanced approach. It’s about:

  • Understanding your current identity
  • Mapping the gap to your desired future self
  • Creating alignment between your actions and your evolution
  • Embracing the messy middle of transformation

A New Approach

Instead of asking “What should I do next?”, try these more powerful questions:

  1. Who would I be if I already had everything I wanted?
  2. What would that version of me do next?
  3. What beliefs need to shift for me to step into that identity?

The GROW model is brilliant in its simplicity, but it’s not always a one-size-fits-all solution. Whether it’s the “best” depends on the context and the person being coached. If you’re after a framework with a bit more depth or adaptability, here are a few alternatives or enhancements:


1. OSCAR Model

A more relational alternative, good for coaching where relationships or values play a key role.

  • Outcome: Similar to Goal – focus on what the coachee wants.
  • Situation: Assess the current reality, but with a focus on relationships or external factors.
  • Choices and Consequences: Explore options, but dig into the potential outcomes of each.
  • Actions: Decide on actionable steps.
  • Review: Build in ongoing reflection or adjustments.

Why it might be better:
It adds a “review” stage, recognising that coaching is often iterative and not just a one-off session.


2. CLEAR Model

Designed for deeper, transformative coaching rather than transactional conversations.

  • Contracting: Set expectations and the purpose of the session.
  • Listening: Focus on deep, active listening – unearth insights.
  • Exploring: Dive into emotions, assumptions, and beliefs, going deeper than just ‘reality.’
  • Action: Similar to GROW, focus on commitments.
  • Review: Reflect and adapt.

Why it might be better:
It’s less linear and focuses on deeper exploration, which aligns well with behavioural psychology.


3. ACHIEVE Model

Good for structured coaching with an emphasis on detailed planning.

  • Assess: Define the issue or opportunity.
  • Create: Develop clear goals.
  • Highlight: Identify potential obstacles.
  • Explore: Brainstorm and evaluate options.
  • Value: Prioritise and select the best approach.
  • Execute: Plan and implement actions.
  • Evaluate: Measure progress and outcomes.

Why it might be better:
It’s a more robust framework for those who prefer detail over simplicity.


4. Transformational Coaching Approach

This isn’t a specific model, but it shifts the focus from “what you do” to “who you are.”

  • Rather than sticking to frameworks, focus on exploring core values, beliefs, and identity.
  • Helps clients not just achieve goals but shift how they see themselves.
  • Encourages insight-driven, lasting behavioural change.

Why it might be better:
It’s particularly suited to high-achievers or those working through imposter syndrome because it helps them connect deeply with their purpose.


Which is “better”?

None are better it’s more a case of which one is appropriate for your needs.

  • Stick with GROW if simplicity works and you’re starting out in business.
  • Try CLEAR if you’re about depth and uncovering subconscious drivers.
  • Use ACHIEVE if you’re a detail-oriented planner.
  • Explore Transformational approaches for longer-term, identity-level change.

Prosperity adopts CLEAR and Transformation Approaches as they’re more useful for businesses who are ready for real growth.

Moving Forward

As you plan for 2025, don’t just set goals – design your evolution. Your next level isn’t hiding in another planning framework – it’s waiting in the space between who you are and who you’re becoming.

Remember: You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to take the next aligned step.

The best transformations don’t come from perfect plans. They come from having the courage to evolve beyond your current frameworks and embrace the unknown.

That’s where true growth lives.

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